When I look at actresses from the USA and also, more increasingly, the younger UK actresses coming through, I see the same flawlessly beautiful face on all of them. It’s not actually a face, it’s a mask they all wear.
Of course, they don’t all look exactly the same in detail, but they all wear the same mask. The mask they wear looks too perfect, too engineered and way too careful. It’s been engineered as a template. And the basis of the template is fear and control.
It emits information at a vibratory level. And the message it relays is dark indeed. It tells us that the highest ideal a woman can reach is physical perfection. It tells us that if you look beautiful the world will open up before you. It tells us that physical beauty is synonymous with wealth, adoration and success. This information is transmitted under your radar, so that you’re not even aware that you are receiving. It takes great presence to become aware and reject the message and its inherent programming.
It sends out a message to all the billions of women worldwide that we are not enough. It tells us that we need to devote ourselves to outer beauty in order to be happy, fulfilled and LOVED. It tells us that beautiful women are life’s winners. And most of all it tells us to conform, to fit in to the template as best we can.
European actresses aren’t quite so flawless, yet many of them are far more authentically beautiful, such as Juliette Binoche.That’s because we can see their inner essence etched on their faces. We can see their pain and their joy. We get glimpses of their suffering and their vulnerability. We can relate to them as real women. Many of the UK’s older actresses exhibit this authentic beauty too – Judy Dench and Helen Mirren, to name just two.
Of course, there are wonderful exceptions to the new UK and USA template. Women such as Meryl Streep, have refused to play ball and they stand as beacons of their craft and examples of what authentic femininity looks like. Women like Streep are empowering role models. But, our cinemas and TVs are flooded by images of women that do NOT empower.
No longer the preserve of Hollywood, this idealised version of womanhood is now firmly established in the corporate world too. And it’s all down to programming. Women, and increasingly men, are being programmed to care more deeply about how they look rather than who they are.
This obsession with the outer form is spreading like a virus, a psychotic epidemic of global proportions. And while the world takes selfie after endless selfie to upload for adoration (and ridicule), while humanity stresses over every line and wrinkle, every grey hair and extra pound of weight, the world becomes a little harder, a little crueler, a little less diversified and it becomes more regulated. And it’s been regulated and constricted by US. Because we are allowing it, and through judgement, policing it. We don’t care about the BIG stuff anymore. We are exhausted and consumed by SMALL concerns that don’t matter a jot.
We need to get over ourselves. Women and men need to grow up and stop being little princes and princesses. We aren’t the fairest in the land. Most of us aren’t movie-star-beautiful and never will be. And that’s okay. There are higher ideals to aspire to. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted. It’s all smoke and mirrors. Be your beautiful unique self. And let the rest of it go.