Loving ourselves exactly as we are

I’ve been and am still going through a process with my body. Due to medication I’ve been taking, I’ve gained 28 pounds in just over a year. I’ve learnt a lot about my body and my relationship with it that I think could help others.


First and foremost, I’ve learnt that long term positive change only occurs when we act out of love for our bodies. That is why diets don’t work. Diets are like wars, we are literally mounting a war on ourselves and the motivation is hate.

We try to beat our bodies into submission. This impulse arises out of self loathing for our physical form. It may work for a time, but its unsustainable. At some point, we run out of steam because hate, disgust and self loathing are negative emotions that damage us physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. And they are so draining. We just can’t keep it up.

The best way to affect positive and healthy changes to our bodies is to forget all about dieting. Instead, we open our hearts to the miraculous wonder that is our physical body. We tune into the body and ask it what it wants and needs to feel good, to feel healthy. And then we wait. We observe what feels good to eat. And not just while we are eating it, but afterwards.

We forget all about calories and targets which are always future orientated. Instead we practice mindfulness as we prepare and eat food. We learn to love our bodies just as they are, unconditionally and with reverence. When we do this, our bodies respond.

Through our intuition, our bodies speak to us. They tell us what we need to feel strong, clean and healthy. When we do this we foster trust. We trust our bodies to show us what we need and our bodies respond by bringing us good health and balance. This loving approach to health really works. I hope my insights help anyone that is overweight, underweight or out of physical balance in any way.

2 thoughts on “Loving ourselves exactly as we are”

  1. This is a tricky one to respond to. Many layers going on here. Being gentle and loving is the only medication,really. Most medications are finally unhelpful,since the core issue is not being addressed.Another mind game to keep us in the pain body?
    Surrender and acceptance of what is, are the only helpful medicines in my world.However,sometimes, thinking something is helpful is just that. Much love.xx The one problem in the human psyche is deep unhappiness,and denial therein of that…xx

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