Getting things wrong – ideas, beliefs, choices, people, jobs, decisions – it’s all GOOD. Because when we get things wrong, a window of opportunity opens. It creates a space of learning. We get to evaluate why what we chose wasn’t right for us. And then we GROW.
There have been many, many times in my life when I was certain that I’d got pretty much everything right. I evaluated, reasoned and felt into each circumstance, and then I concluded that I’d got it right. Sometimes, being wrong can be the right choice. It allows us an opportunity to follow a given trajectory that starts with a decision and is played out to a conclusion.
That’s why we are here – NOT to be perfect, but to learn and grow through taking chances and experimenting in this world of form. Our greatest strength and most valuable tool is our imperfection, which is pretty much the opposite of what we have been taught.
Even when we are filled with doubt and self-loathing and our lives are falling apart , many of us still dig deep and summon up the energy to present a facade of perfection. I find that notion incredibly touching. It fills me with such love and tenderness for us all. It’s misguided, but it demonstrates the innate goodness that’s at the core of us all. We WANT to do well. We WANT to be the best we can be, but really we’ve got it all backwards.
We are already, in essence, the BEST we can be. We are ALREADY perfected. We are here to realise that and FEEL what that experience is like when lived through the human experience of imperfection. It sounds like a contradiction. It’s a paradox really as all fundamental truths are in their nature.
If we can summon up the courage to live authentically and honestly with our imperfections, whilst still remaining connected to our perfect nature, we will fulfil our purpose, the reason why we came here. For each of us, this will be different, because we are all both unique in our expression but the same at our core.
Some lives will appear to be like a car crash when viewed by others, but depending on how consciously we have lived, the very lives that look, to an outsider, disastrous, could very well be the outward signs of a life well lived from a spiritual perspective. Conversely, lives that seem accomplished and successful could quite easily be viewed as unfulfilled and less than successful in terms of spiritual fulfilment.
As we move through the years of our life, the aim I feel, is not to cease from making mistakes and errors of judgement, but to make subtler and subtler ‘mis-takes’ so that the very essence of our being can more easily permeate our physical presence. By that I mean, the more we learn from our past, the greater our capacity to fine tune the human experience. We leave behind the density of crude emotional energy – anger, jealousy, greed, etc. – and create a lighter environment for love, joy, peace and bliss to anchor into the physical.